The Dark Side of Growth Mindset

Having a growth mindset can increase:โฃ
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๐ธfeelings of controlโฃ
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๐ธability to work through setbacksโฃ
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๐ธchances of goal achievementโฃ
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All GREAT things.โฃ
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๐๐๐ ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ’๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐…โฃ
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If you start to believe you are in control of your situation, and have the ability to change it…โฃ
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then you also begin to realize that you’re responsible for your current status.โฃ
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You believe that you can change your body composition?โฃ
^ THEN you’re also the reason why you’re currently overweight.โฃ
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You realize that you are in control of your productivity?โฃ
^ THEN you’re also the reason you always procrastinate.โฃ
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You come to realize that you have the power to change your eating behaviors?โฃ
^ THEN you’re also at fault for your current unhealthy ways.โฃ
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So what does this mean exactly?โฃ
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Recognizing your ability to change can also make you feel guilty or shameful for where you’re currently at.โฃ
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And we all know where these negative feelings can take us.โฃ
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This is called the “double edged sword” effect in the mindset research, and it’s nearly ALWAYS looked over when we talk about increasing growth mindset.โฃ
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And TBH — facing your current situation and the things you want to change isn’t comfy… I’m willing to bet that it’s a large part of why you’re stuck in the first place.โฃ
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Part of GROWING requires that you face your fixed mindset tendencies & recognizing your limitations.โฃ
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But this is also where the self-compassion piece really comes in (see yesterday’s post)โฃ
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๐๐’๐ ๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐๐ถ๐ฏ๐น๐ฒ ๐๐ผ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐๐ก ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ฒ, ๐๐ถ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ด๐๐ถ๐น๐๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐ป๐ผ๐.โฃ
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It just might take some some time, effort, trial and error, and a few good people in your corner.โฃ