The Dark Side of Growth Mindset
Having a growth mindset can increase:
🔸feelings of control
🔸ability to work through setbacks
🔸chances of goal achievement
All GREAT things.
𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝘃𝗲𝗮𝘁…
If you start to believe you are in control of your situation, and have the ability to change it…
then you also begin to realize that you’re responsible for your current status.
You believe that you can change your body composition?
^ THEN you’re also the reason why you’re currently overweight.
You realize that you are in control of your productivity?
^ THEN you’re also the reason you always procrastinate.
You come to realize that you have the power to change your eating behaviors?
^ THEN you’re also at fault for your current unhealthy ways.
So what does this mean exactly?
Recognizing your ability to change can also make you feel guilty or shameful for where you’re currently at.
And we all know where these negative feelings can take us.
This is called the “double edged sword” effect in the mindset research, and it’s nearly ALWAYS looked over when we talk about increasing growth mindset.
And TBH — facing your current situation and the things you want to change isn’t comfy… I’m willing to bet that it’s a large part of why you’re stuck in the first place.
Part of GROWING requires that you face your fixed mindset tendencies & recognizing your limitations.
But this is also where the self-compassion piece really comes in (see yesterday’s post)
𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗖𝗔𝗡 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲, 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗿 𝗴𝘂𝗶𝗹𝘁𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝘁 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘄.
It just might take some some time, effort, trial and error, and a few good people in your corner.