How to Stop Sabotaging Your Goals During Special Occasions

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Stop sabotaging your goals to please others. It's okay to say no to the birthday cake. Woman holding chocolate cake.

If you live a healthy lifestyle, the holidays, vacations, and other events can be an issue.⁣

But, these things aren’t an issue because you need to severely restrict or deprive yourself, but because you might be around people who don’t understand why you choose healthy eating and exercise.⁣

This puts you in the uncomfortable position of feeling like you have to explain yourself⁣.


You might end up eating and drinking more than normal and moving less simply because you don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable.

I’m here to tell you that regardless of whether you’re celebrating the holidays, a birthday, or anything else, you don’t have to give up your healthy habits to please others. 

Just like you don’t expect your loved ones to justify why they choose to hang out on the couch after a big dinner, you don’t need to justify why you want to move your body. 


Stop Sabotaging Your Goals to Please Others


It’s hard for many people to understand why you might choose the healthier options in the face of so many indulgences. Some individuals see your healthy habits as a form of punishment rather than you doing things that make you feel good. 

So then you’ll be faced with comments like:

“Are you sure you don’t want more wine?”⁣

“There’s no way I could work out right now—this is my time to relax. Maybe you should try it sometime!”⁣

“You have so much turkey! Grab some more sides!”⁣

It’s not fun to feel like you have to constantly defend yourself. Especially when you’re defending the habits that make you feel the best, but people’s nagging comments are no reason to start
sabotaging your goals

Think of it this way: you’ll end up feeling worse if you give into people’s pressure to indulge more than you will feel for saying “no, thank you.”


Your Mindset About Healthy Living

This situation can obviously be applied outside of holidays and big events, too.⁣

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard, “You would order a salad, Kasey,”⁣ or I’ve been guilted for choosing a full night’s sleep over staying out later.⁣

I still have to tell myself this:⁣

Most people in the world don’t prioritize health and fitness, so I can’t expect them to suddenly understand why I prioritize health and fitness.⁣

Movement and healthy eating make me feel my best, and these people do want me to feel my best, even if they don’t understand what I’m doing.⁣

It’s important to remember that you’re doing this for yourself, not for anyone else. If your healthy habits make you happy, you should continue to do them regardless of the occasion. 

Some things you never need to justify:


  • Why you want to work out on a holiday, on your birthday, while on vacation, etc.
  • Why you’d prefer to go for a walk after dinner rather than lay on the couch.
  • Why you don’t want another glass of wine.
  • Why turkey and green beans make up more of your plate than mashed potatoes and stuffing. 
  • Why you don’t want a piece of every dessert available. 


Remind yourself of your priorities when people start making comments and know you don’t have to give into the pressure just because it’s a special occasion. 


Indulge Without Guilt

An important side note:⁣

I still indulge plenty during the holidays, and I’m always excited about the drinks and treats!⁣

But even still, keeping things 80% healthy and nutrient-dense and making exercise a priority makes me feel happiest, so I’m going to keep it up no matter the time of year.⁣

And remember, a simple “no, thank you” is enough. 

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