Common Coaching MisstepsOct 15, 2021
The coaches with the best intentions, those driven by the heart with all the passion there is….
Are often the coaches with the least successful clients.
And in the worst-case scenario: they 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗡𝗢𝗧 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲.
All while meaning well and truly trying to help.
What’s happening here?!
Issue: You are immediately providing suggestions and solutions to your clients. They came to you because you’re an expert with all the answers, right?
Why this might be problematic: In an effort to help your clients, you miss out on the opportunity to help them CHANGE.
What you can try instead: Ask your clients what worked for them in the past and what ideas they might have before you start listing off your suggestions.
Issue: Ignoring the bad and only focusing on the good. As a coach, you should always focus on your clients’ strengths and dismiss their slip-ups, right?
Why this might be problematic: Without properly addressing the slip-ups, your client won’t be prepared to handle similar situations in the future.
What you can try instead: Normalize the “mistakes” and empathize with them. Ask your client what they might do differently next time they’re in a similar situation and help them formulate a game plan.
Issue: Allowing clients to attempt to make massive changes. They’re excited to get started and want to do all the things! As a coach, we should let them, right?
Why this might be problematic: Your client is riding on a sense of hope. They want to do it all, but they might be overzealous, and their self-efficacy will tank when they can’t meet their expectations.
What you can try instead: Ask your client about their current lifestyle and have them determine what they’re most confident they can achieve.
Issue: Only discussing the benefits of changing with your client. After all, you shouldn’t discuss the benefits of NOT changing with your client, right?
Why this might be problematic: You’ll miss out on crucial information about your client, such as the reasons why their current, less healthy, lifestyle works for them.
What you can try instead: Ask your client about the good that comes from their unhealthy behaviors. This strategy often results in them saying “...BUT” and providing reasons for change.
The UNDERLYING issue
You aren’t the only one who faces these issues. It’s common among coaches, and that’s because there’s an underlying issue.
Unfortunately, there is a lack of education and understanding regarding human behavior, mindset, and psychology.
You can be a GOOD COACH but have poor client retention, adherence, and overall success due to a lack of training in these areas.
Areas that I refer to as the “art” of coaching. This is often the missing piece.
Contrary to popular belief
You might not need a fancy sales funnel, prettier website, or more client resources to lEvEL uP your coaching game.
You might... just need to be a better coach.
I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but it might be what you need to hear. And it’s not your fault — this stuff isn’t taught in certifications.
In fact, it’s placed pretty far down on the “importance totem pole” in coaching education, period.
It takes two to tango
If you feel like your clients are resisting change, there’s a good chance they’re actually resisting you. While that definitely sucks to hear, it’s not a career ender. In fact, being aware that you need to make certain improvements as a coach will help you and your clients!
And I’m not about to leave you hanging high and dry. Like I said, if you’re experiencing these issues you are not alone. This is why the Health Mindset Coaching Certification exists.
If you’re interested in learning how to cultivate a growth mindset and guide your clients to sustained behavior change using evidence-based practices in psychology, you need to sign up for the next round of my Health Mindset Coaching Certification.